I Said No!

Proactive parenting resources to help protect kids from sexual abuse

 

 

From the team that created the bestselling book,
I Said No! A kid-to-kid guide to keeping private parts private


Our Story

When he was 5 years old, my son Zack had an experience that all parents wish their child would never have. At a birthday sleepover party Zack’s best friend tried to engage him in inappropriate behavior. I thought I had prepared Zack so that this could not happen to him. I was wrong.

I had not prepared my son for the lies, nor the blackmail, intimidation, threats or bribery. All of these were used by his “best friend” who we had known for years. Zack felt uncomfortable, unsafe, and trapped; and the whole time he was literally right next door at his first sleepover!

Here's some of what I've learned:

Prepare.

I had not realized how widespread these events are. In large part, that is why Zack and I wanted to tell our story and create this website. But there's good news too. I've learned that we can effectively prepare children and ourselves in a way that feels comfortable and safe.

Prevent.

I've learned that we have a lot of power, as parents and caregivers, to prevent situations where children are at risk for abuse. For example, we can implement rules so that no child can be left alone with an adult behind a closed door, at school, at camp, or at church.

Protect.

Effective strategies to protect young people are becoming clear. With broader awareness comes the power to change. By educating ourselves and taking effective action, we can help keep our kids safe.
 
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Kimberly King

Kimberly King, the author of "I Said No!", is a mom, kindergarten teacher and a facilitator for Darkness to Light.

Learn more about Kimberly's books and activities on her proactive parenting blog.

 
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A proactive parent, teacher, or caregiver has the ability to protect children in many ways.

5 steps you can take to protect
kids from sexual abuse.

1. Learn the Facts.

It is highly likely that you know a child who has been or is being abused. Research shows that the biggest risk to kids doesn’t come from strangers, but from friends and family. They often go out of their way to seem trustworthy.*

2. Minimize the Risk

More than 80% of sexual abuse cases occur in isolated, one-on-one situations. Use that knowledge to protect your kids.* Research your sports team, youth groups, church leaders, and schools to make sure they have a sexual abuse prevention policy in place.

3. Talk about it

Children often keep abuse a secret, but talking openly about our bodies, sex, and boundaries can encourage children to share. Keep an open line of conversation even if the topic seems tough.* Read a book about the topic and chat.

4. Learn the Signs

Physical signs of sexual abuse are not common, but can occur. Emotional signs and sexual behavior/language that are not age-appropriate can be a red flag. Be aware that in some children there are no signs whatsoever.*

5. React Responsibly

Disclosure of sexual abuse means a child has chosen you as the person he or she trusts enough to tell. It is the moment when children learn whether others can be trusted to stand up for them. Don’t overreact. Remain calm, listen, and thank the child for trusting you. Seek professional help to report the incident.*


*These 5 steps are from the very helpful organization, Darkness to Light .

 

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In the months ahead we'll share strategies to help keep kids stay safe at camp, at school, at church, at home, with friends, at family gatherings and in your neighborhood.

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A must have for all parents and kids . . .
Puts things on a kid's level without being too graphic,
but really does get the point across.

Florappaloosier — Amazon Reviewer

As early as 4 years old, we decided to open the discussion up
so that our daughter would be aware of her own body. . .
It is about building their confidence in saying "NO". Best thing we ever did.

PreparedMomma — Amazon Reviewer

I read them all on this subject, and this one IS the BEST!
I feel CONFIDENT that my daughter will recognize a dangerous situation because of this book!

Jennifer G. Sullivan — Amazon Reviewer